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Encouragement For The Frazzled Mom

Credits: Dear Mom Letters by Rachel Marie Martin

Mother’s Day Gift Book

I am promoting another wonderfully amazing book, Dear Mom Letters, written by Rachel Marie Martin.

It was designed to encourage the busy mom who is in need of a few quite moments.

Consider getting this for your mom (if she loves books and stories such as the ones you will find in this book), or for your busy mom friend, or for your frazzled daughter who is trying to find her way through this busy time.

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Finding Your Brave

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I am shamelessly promoting this book, The Brave Art of Motherhood, Fight Fear. Gain Confidence. Find Yourself Again, by Rachel Marie Martin

This book is truly an amazing book to read if you have become stuck in a life that does not look familiar any longer and if you want to break free from the chains that have held you down for so long.

Do you spend countless hours worrying about everything from finances, relationships, to worrying about your children? Then this book is for you. Rachel talks about the everyday struggles everyone encounters. She talks about the masks we wear to hide from our unpleasant realities and how we can have the strength to unmask and live our “real” life.

She talks about hiding behind the garage doors that are holding back the things we have collected over the years, but have been too afraid to get rid of. She empowers us to break free of the need to keep everything and take back the control this has robbed us from.

She talks honestly about living with financial hardships and how they can hold us in bondage that many may never have the courage to break free from. She openly shares with us how she gained the confidence to break this horrible cycle and how she gained the financial wisdom and strength to beat this ugly monster called debt.

My friend, these are just a few highlights of how her life was impacted by difficulties. What is so refreshing about this book is how she has the ability to write in a manner that speaks directly to her reader. You walk away from each chapter saying, “How did she know that was me?” But she doesn’t leave you there. She gives you the strength and courage to believe in yourself again and empowers you with the ability to break your own cycle of bondage.

Lastly, in complete honesty, I can not begin to promote this book with due diligence. Rachel has written this from her heart. She shares many more stories of what she has struggled with over the years and how when she found her “Brave”, put on her shoes and began her journey to seek freedom from the bondage that held her back in life. Her story is real and it resonates with many of her readers, such as myself, because we have all been in or are in similar circumstances she found herself in. She is open, real, honest, and shares her raw stories to help readers like us to have the courage to seek the same bravery and freedom she found.

Are you looking to do the same? Do you want to find your “Brave” and break free of the bondage that holds you captive?

Do you know someone who would benefit from this book as well? Purchase this book today and share it with others as well. For this unbelievable price, you can afford to buy multiples. It will not stay at this sale price, so consider purchasing it today. It will make for a beautiful Mother’s Day gift because it will forever change the life of the person reading it.

Get this amazing book today!! It is ON SALE for only $1.99 for Mother’s Day. You will not regret it.

In closing, do not be concerned when you read the title where it says Motherhood in it. This book is sure to touch the hearts of everyone who reads it. You do not have to be a mother of small children to enjoy its message. She writes in that account because that is what she is, a mother of small children, but her message will resonate with all her readers.

Disclaimer, I am not promoting this book to seek revenue from its sales. I do not receive one penny from it. I am promoting it because I truly believe in the message she is sharing and I know it will change the lives of those who read it. This is my pay off, knowing others will be equally blessed like I have been.

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Changes Are Powerful

Revealing All Sides of Them

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I am popping in to say I am still here. Last week ended up crazy busy because Kiddo stayed well enough for me to in fact paint the inside of my house while my husband was gone. I am so happy I did because I have a “real” confession to make, my house was filthy.

When I began to tear it apart to get into the crevasses and corners you do not see on a regular basis, I began to see stuff that made me cringe. It truly broke my heart because Kiddo is highly allergic to this kind of dust. It makes me wonder how much our own home was contributing to her sickness?

Well, it is clean, updated, and fresh again. As we were making these changes we were both excited because we like change. Change breathes life into whatever it is you are changing. It to us is not a bad thing because we love it, however, to my husband he was not impressed when he came home to my freshness and change.

He hates change, but I was to be able to paint and make over rooms in my house in the past. I suspected he was not happy this time though because when he came home from being away his silence was deafening. I was not able to get everything I wanted to be done because he was not gone long enough, so he did not see what I have envisioned yet. I was not able to get the trim painted or put up the special signs I am going to make. At this point, I have decided to wait on painting the trim as I think this will truly be too much change. He needs to sit on these changes for a while.

I have an immense “raw and real” confession to make, this rejection hurt me to my core. I do everything I do to keep our home running efficiently while both he and my daughter spend more time sick than they do well. I run them to their countless doctor appointments so I can stay on top of their health issues and so for me to do this because it made me feel good was beyond disheartening.

I got extremely upset Saturday night and had a complete meltdown. I was yelling and screaming (not my finest moment or one I am proud of), but it was because I was tired of hiding my hurt and exhaustion any longer. I was tired of hiding behind my mask that says it is okay you hurt me again. Unfortunately, I crushed my sweet daughter in my rant because it started with her and I arguing with each other over my not willing to go to Washington DC for Veteran’s Day, but that was not even what had me upset. I was upset with her dad and his stubbornness to see these changes were important to me and that I needed this for me to find my happy place again. She didn’t know this. She only saw my emotions boiling out of control to the point they erupted like an out of control volcano.

I told you this to share my deepest and real feelings which I hide from behind my mask, the mask that says I have it all together when in full disclosure, I have nothing together. As my husband told me the other night in my fit of anger and yes rage at one point, I have become psychotic and I need help. This is only his perspective. I, however, stand on the truth of my own emotions. Unstable is the least of my problems. I am however over-worked, over-burdened from carrying the load for both of us for so long. I am exhausted both mentally and physically and depressed for the lifestyle we are living in now and will continue to live for him to be happy here. What he does not realize, understand or see, is that if I was as unstable as he believes me to be, I could not continue to carry the unbearably heavy load I carry to ensure he has a happy life while he struggles with the burdens of dealing with his own PTSD.

I am not sure how it has happened but since 2012 I have tap danced around my husband’s war triggered PTSD and anger. I have walked on cartons worth of eggshells to keep him happy. We stopped doing things we enjoyed as a family. We stopped attending events that were crowded because that was an anxiety trigger for him. Now both my Kiddo and I have found (as of this weekend that crowds make us both nervous and uncomfortable). I knew change upsets him so I make few “big” changes so he will not get upset, but my friends as I have found years later, giving in to all of this is not healthy for you as an individual. Your attempt to help them all the time is actually enabling what will become bad behavior and behavior that can, in turn, cost you everything. Everything meaning your happiness, your identity, and your life. 

Be careful how much of you, you give away to others. I have done some serious soul-searching over the past couple of days as I was on a personal quest to make changes within myself to find “me” to be truly happy again. Now I find myself at a crossroads because if my husband hates change to the point of me writing my deepest and rawest heart out here, then I have a much bigger problem of making changes within my own heart. He is not going to like the personal changes I make within myself because he will feel the effects of some of those changes.

So this is the question I am left with … do I continue my journey of self-discovery at the cost of everything, that meaning my marriage of almost 25 years and my family? How much is my need for change worth to me?  

Please forgive me as this post is deeply personal and I am writing from my rawest moment this morning. I am at this moment of pondering this simple quote written by Rachel Marie Martin in her book, The Brave Art of Motherhood,

“Be brave,” says my spirit. 

“Wait,” says fear.

“Have courage,” says my soul. 

“Not yet,” says worry.

“Dare,” says my heart. 

– Rachel Marie Martin 

The Brave Art of Motherhood

Where does this journey take me? Where does God want me to be in five years? How do I regain stability in my life again? All of these are questions I have and still need answers to. As I continue to find my way in life, I will continue to write about them as it is my deepest desire that if my heartache can help someone else to know they are not battling their own battles alone, then all of this pain will be worth it in the end.